Start early
Lovemaking doesn't start when you crawl in between the sheets. It
starts before you even get out of bed. What you do throughout the day
either enhances or decreases your chance for intimacy. Kissbefore
leaving for work. Meet for lunch. Call in the middle of the day. Smile
at each other. Little things go a long way in getting you and your
partner in the mood.
Pay attention to touch
If your partner has ever said, "The only time you touch me is when
you want to have sex," you are not paying attention to non-sexual touch.
When there is a lot of non-sexual touch, it makes sexual touch
more exciting and more desirable. Non-sexual touch can be rubbing her
shoulders or feet as you watch a movie, resting your hand on his lap
while driving, or holding hands.
Look good
If 100 people wrote their top ten turn-ons, I bet that 99% of them
listed something relating to how a person looks. So keep looking good!
Forget about, "If he loved me, he would love me even in sweats." He
might love you is sweats, but he won't be as turned on.
Smell good
Smelling good is sexy. When your partner smells good,
it makes you want to get closer. When you are close, chemical reactions
can happen and ignite a fire! Really! I am talking about pheromones,
the chemical Viagra. If you've seen male dogs rather 'round a female in
heat, you know the power of pheromones. Being too sweaty can cancel out
and mask their effectiveness. So be clean and let the "love scent" do
its work.
Master the art of good conversation
People stop talking when they feel the other isn't listening. This is
a major intimacy killer. When share your inner thoughts and feelings or
listen while your partner speaks of his day, you create intimacy that
is needed for good sex.
Share activities
If your partner wants to do something or go somewhere, tag along. The
more time you spend together, the more opportunity you have to cozy up,
touch, and have good conversation. A pleasant day spent with the one
you love is a powerful aphrodisiac.
Schedule time for romance
Knowing that you have a date can heighten anticipation and make lovemaking more fun.
Be spontaneous
You can plan and be spontaneous too. Add some spice by dressing
differently, putting on a wig, talking with an accent, or going
somewhere on a whim. Fantasize and take your fun where you find it.
Take care of yourself
When you are rested and fit, you will have more energy and desire for love so you can give and receive more.
Let go in bed
Forget about kids, work, or your "to do" list. Turn off the brain
activity and let lovemaking be your escape. It will help you unwind,
refresh, and keep you looking forward to the next time!
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